This guest blog post is written by Julia Stamman, LPC-Intern. Julia is a counselor who specializes in young adults who identify as geeks, gamers, or misfits.
You may ask yourself:
What if I’m LGBTQ+ AND a geek, and are there others out there like me?
The answer is yes!
There is an intersection between LGBTQ+ folk and geekdom, and it is a growing culture of openness and celebration. For example, the organization Geeks Out serves to promote the LGBTQ+ voice in geek culture. If you’re reading this blog, I’m going to connect you with information and resources out there depending on your question—there are a lot out there!
I hear something very similar from parents and other loved ones of transgender and nonbinary people who come into my office, “I can’t use they/them pronouns, it isn’t how I was taught and I can’t wrap my mind around it.”
Have you ever said or thought anything similar?
If so, it’s okay, you aren’t the first or last person to do so.
I’m here to say with the utmost confidence that even though it can be difficult, you already use the singular they/them language.
Locating a gender therapist in an ocean of psychotherapist’s can be tricky. Knowing what to look for and how to determine fit can also be tricky. Below I have 3 tips (and a bonus tips for parents) on finding a gender therapist.
Using your “Google Foo” skills can come in handy. Below I will review some great resources to use when searching for a gender therapist. When you search a phrase such as, “gender therapists austin,” or “transgender counseling austin,” more than likely the first couple of results will be from Psychology Today.
Psychology Today is a great tool to use for locating psychotherapists in your area. When searching Psychology Today begin by using your zip code or city.
Another local, and amazing, Gender Therapist, Lindsay Legé has created an amazing podcast which focuses on all things transgender, genderqueer, non-binary, intersex, and some things sexuality!
I was asked by Lindsay to be interviewed for the podcast which I did, even though I was very nervous. You would think that speaking in a microphone would be more comfortable for me than speaking in front of people, nope, not the case for little old me.
I have been reading a lot lately due to my goal of building a lending library for my client's and their families. I am currently reading "If We Shadows" by D.E. Atwood. This young adult fiction has kept me entertained with the story of Jordan, a trans boy who just wants to live his last year of high school as himself and be known for his acting and singing abilities rather than his gender. The story is nicely written and becomes more complex as Shakespeare's Puck makes an apperance.
Oh yes, the loveable and infamous fairy is a major theme in the book, if you didnt guess that already due to the title.
"Alex as Well" by Alyssa Brugman is a fiction book about Alex, a girl who is on a journey to discover her true self in a world that tells her she a boy.
The Texas Transgender Nondiscrimination Summit is an amazing conference that is held annually in a different Texas collage or university. This year the conference is being held at Stephen F. Austin University on June 9th and 10th!
The conference is open to everyone and I encourage you to check out their website.
The Central Texas Transgender Health Coalition is an amazing organization based out of Austin, Texas. The organization is dedicated to advocacy and education for the transgender and gender non-binary communities. The organization consist of community members, mental health professionals, medical doctors, non-profits members, and many more!
CTTHC will be holding their first conference and health fair this coming September! Check out their website for more information!
A teenage client of mine recently told me that I should read this book. The story is of a trans boy wanting to spend his last year in high school as his true self. However, he would rather be known for his acting and musical abilities instead of his gender identity.
Of course, with a name like, If We Shadows, the infamous Puck does make an appearance. It is a funny, dramatic, and heart warming story.
"Gender Born, Gender Made," by Dr. Diane Ehrensaft is an amazing resource for anyone wishing to expand their knowledge on gender and children. I recommend this book to all of my client's parents who bring in their children for "gender issues."
Gender can be scary and complex, especially when you're the parent and you just want what is best for your child. Allowing your child to explore and express their gender is healthy and helpful in their development.
I encourage everyone to read this wonderful book and her follow-up, "The Gender Creative Child."
About my Blog
I love providing people with information. So in my blog you will find posts on topics such as: community resources, media suggestions, parenting questions, and informational posts.