Ah February, the month of love, the month you show that special someone exactly how you feel.
What a load of crap.
Maybe it has some truth to it.
Valentine’s Day is a huge holiday in our culture. And for some people, not only single people, February can seem like an extremely lonely month because of this one little day.
We are taught that Valentine’s Day is for that special someone. Cool, I have no problem with that. You know why? Because that special someone can be yourself.
Last year my husband and I spent the year apart because he was here in Austin starting his PhD and I was in Kentucky finishing up my Master’s degree.
And even though we had never celebrated Valentine’s Day in previous years, the lead up to this “holiday of love” was very lonely because half of my heart was in Austin.
Many people go through a similar struggle. Many partners who can’t be with each other and many single individuals feel isolated and alone.
It can be maddening watching the commercials about Valentine’s Day and listening to the gushing of the people around you.
It took me a while to figure out that I can be that special someone. When I finally came to this realization I decided to treat myself like it.
Valentine’s Day is the day of love so show yourself some love.
All You Need Is Love
Treat yourself like your own special someone.
I will admit that in the past I was that person who was worried about buying myself a Valentine's gift when I was apart from my husband.
I didn't want to be seen at the movies alone even though I love going to see movies.
And then one day I asked myself, “What is stopping me?” It was embarrassment and shame because other people might have seen it as pathetic or desperate.
This is a common fear. What is the remedy for it? Like Nike says, “Just Do It!” This is easier said than done so I took baby steps. Starting in early February I went to the movies alone.
I was very nervous, but the world didn’t end. I actually had a good time. So I stepped up my game and started to treat myself more.
The big day came, Valentine’s Day. Everyone in my office was getting flowers and a few people came up to apologize that I didn’t get any. Later in the day a big bouquet of flowers came for me.
People were shocked and wanted to know who sent them. So I said, “myself of course.” Yes, I ordered flowers and had them delivered to my office.
And I loved when they arrived. I smiled and read the card, which I wrote specially for me. The flowers still made me smile and still smelt as sweet.
Crazy Little Thing Called Love
What I did may not be something you want to do. Maybe it stirs up too much anxiety and you’re not sure you can make that leap. That’s fine!
The whole point is about loving yourself!
There are so many ways to treat yourself and show love for yourself.
Below is a list of 10 suggestions to show yourself some love!
At the end of everyday, before you go to bed take a minute and tell yourself how amazing you are and how much you love yourself!
Show Some Love
Next time you see a commercial or listen to a love song let yourself be the person they are talking or singing about. You have yourself for the rest of your life, so show some love and treat yourself.
Once you accomplish this, don’t stop. Keep it going for the rest of 2016.
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